Anal Therapy

When I first started my career as an escort, I did not offer “Greek.” Not because I didn’t want to - I really did. I loved rimming and any kind of external anal play, but penetration felt like too much to offer with a stranger. If I was ever able to get there, it was a very slow process.

I won’t totally derail this blog with all of my woo-woo spiritual beliefs about anal (trust me, I have many and they run deep), but I will take this opportunity to educate. When I was younger, early in my career as an escort and dominatrix, I was good at what I did - but like many of us in our early 20s, I still had a lot of inner work to do. I wasn’t yet as secure and grounded as I am today.

As I grew, did the work, and claimed my right to exist, to take up space, and to trust my internal compass and boundaries, something interesting happened. I suddenly found myself able to open up more - literally. Anal penetration became easier, more pleasurable, and far less uncomfortable.

If you’ve ever explored the chakra system referenced in spiritual and tantric traditions, the root chakra is said to live at the perineum. Let’s be real — it’s basically the asshole. I genuinely believe that most people who struggle with anal penetration (setting aside medical or physical issues) are dealing with energetic tension or blockage.

The root chakra is associated with security, confidence, safety, belonging, and feeling grounded. When it’s out of balance, that can show up as anxiety, fear, distrust, and disconnection. In short: when you feel safe and secure, your body opens. Trust - in yourself and in your partner - is essential.

And from a purely physical perspective, the anal sphincter is an incredibly reactive muscle. It responds immediately to stress, scattered attention, or nervous energy. Ironically, good, attentive anal sex can actually calm the nervous system and help release tension. An attitude adjustment, if you will. 

Even in my early days as a sex worker, I was deeply drawn to anal play. I spent years as a dominatrix and specialized in strap-on work, prostate massage, fisting, etc. Today my brand is softer, but my anal enthusiasts still find me, and these activities remain a core part of what I offer. Strap-on and prostate work have always been among my most requested sessions. It’s actually rare for me to see a client who doesn’t want some form of anal play.

Part of it is the gender play and role reversal. Part of it is that anal is simply hot. And, if I’m being honest, early in my career there was probably some delicious envy of the people who could relax enough to take penetration so beautifully.

That envy is long gone. Years ago I added “Greek Goddess” to my repertoire, and I truly love it. It’s primal, intimate, and deeply pleasurable. Some of my most powerful orgasms happen during anal sex. My personal favorite is combining a magic wand and anal penetration. Absolute fireworks.

I especially love that so many people feel safe coming to me for their first explorations. I’ve always had a gift for facilitating “firsts” because I naturally balance command and nurture. I believe my deeper energetic understanding - and my own firsthand experience of moving through fear and tension - helps many people release their blockages and discover a side of themselves that they had been yearning to unlock.

I often joke that everyone loves anal — if they say they don’t, it’s usually because they haven’t done it right yet. A very good friend and fellow kinky escort, Hextyn, once shared one of my favorite lines: “We’re all bottoms. Some of us are just kind enough to top.”  It’s true! It’s great to be fucked. At its core, anal play is about vulnerability, trust, and surrender - whether you’re giving, receiving, or moving between the two.

Whether I’m guiding a lover into deep surrender with their legs on my shoulders, expertly melting someone into my hands during a prostate edging session, or losing myself in sensation and connection with my makeup smearing on the hotel pillow, anal has become one of my favorite ways to experience intimacy and embodiment. And yes - I truly believe more people would benefit from getting fucked here and there.